Throughout our lives we are taught to believe that making a mistake, missing a goal or producing an incorrect answer will label us a failure and lead to our rejection by society. Because of this belief we are afraid to admit when we've made a mistake, afraid to admit when we are incorrect. In many instances this leads not only to lies in order to cover up a mistake, but offensive attacks against others in an attempt to divert attention away from what we perceive as our own failures.
As children we find ourselves being taught that if we do not meet the goals set for us by our elders we will never make it in this world. An incorrect answer results in an 'F' or failure. This creates an early fear of inadequacy, a fear that is fostered by our peers who seek to attack others on their mistakes as a means to cover up their own and our employers who feel that individuals should be punished for their mistakes in an attempt to increase productivity and profitability. The latter instance is an example of where greed or the pursuit of material objects is given greater value than the person. The former is an example of how our own falsely based fears lead us to commit actions against others that eventually come back to haunt us.
We attack others by calling them stupid, lazy, and worthless when they make mistakes and in many cases we do so as a preemptive strike. We attack them in an attempt to chase them away and prevent them from attacking ourselves on our own mistakes. Ultimately this is a very poor strategy because we end up reinforcing the fears others have in regards to their own sense of self worth making them more likely to attack others in an attempt to defend themselves. When they attack others they reinforce their fears and cause them to attack even more until eventually the attacks lead back to ourselves only to reinforce our own fears and lead to additional attacks. What we see here could be called Karma, our attacks against others eventually lead to attacks against ourselves. We're all so afraid of rejection that we've chosen to reject each other preemptively so we can say we rejected them rather than they rejected us.
Inevitably there are those who have become so inundated with fear that they seek to remove this fear from their lives by any means necessary. There are those who are so afraid of their peers that they choose to pick up a weapon and physically remove the source of their fears. We have chosen to raise our children through the use of fear by telling them if they do not meet our demands we will see to it that they suffer, "if you do not perform to our expectations on these tests we will see to it that you are rejected and exiled from society." This fear follows us as we grow, what we end up with a society made up of traumatized individuals who do not realize their own trauma, it's so widespread that this trauma is simply considered normal.
Our choice to raise our children in fear and our choice to defend ourselves from our own fears via the use of fear comes back to haunt us. We are the bearers of our own suffering. We must accept that it is okay to be wrong, okay to make a mistake. We must accept that we were wrong to punish others for their mistakes and we were wrong to teach ourselves that it is wrong to be wrong. They are not better than you, neither are you better than they. We all deserve to exist.
It is not our place to decide who should and should not exist, who should and should not be accepted. We have yet to venture outside of our solar system and yet have the arrogance to claim we know how the universe works. Dear child, we have no idea where we are. We know so very little, how could we possibly make the determination of what should and should not be? We have not the knowledge to make the world as we see fit for we do not know what it already is. In our attempt to create a better world we created our own hell, we were not smart enough to realize that the world was already perfect.
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