When it comes to competition I realize that the actual winner is not the person who's constructed the most technically pleasing work of art or the person who's achieved the highest score, but instead it is the person who had fun doing it, the person who received enjoyment out of the journey. Sure you might be able to garner more followers on Facebook or sell your works for large amounts of money, but if you're not having fun you're not happy and if you're not happy you've lost the game of life.
Take golf for example. I imagine that the game was originally meant as a relaxing past time, a place where people can go to let their stresses drain away. Today it's no longer a game, but a cut throat competition which completely negates the spirit of the game by adding additional stress to one's life rather than giving them the opportunity to let that stress fade. If you find yourself throwing your clubs or becoming increasingly stressed out about having a bad golf day then you've completely missed the point of the game. It's not about who has the highest or lowest score, it's about relaxation and enjoyment, that's how you win.
If you're friends are making fun of your golf swing or judging the number of swings you've taken on a particular hole remember, where the numbers might say they're winning in truth they've lost because they've become more concerned about winning than having a good time and that's what it's really all about.
Life is not at all unlike golf. It's not about winning or losing, it's about enjoying it, if you're not enjoying it than why are you playing it? Remember when you were a kid and you could just draw a couple of stick people and be perfectly happy with what you've created, not because it was a towering feat of technical accomplishment, but because you had fun creating it. What happened to that? You weren't trying to sell your work of art, you weren't trying to impress anyone, you weren't trying to sell yourself, you just wanted to have a good time and you were happy.